Emotional Intelligence At Work

5 Ways To Overcome The Bad Boss Syndrome With Emotional Intelligence

Emotional Intelligence At Work: 5 Ways To Overcome The Bad Boss Syndrome With Emotional Intelligence

"'People don't leave organizations they leave supervisors."

That statement has been written so many times in the last five years that it would be boring if it were not so true, so sad and so expensive. Study after study cite the supervisor-employee relationship as a main threat to retention. The issue has been so prevalent that counselors have even coined a term for sufferers - "Bad Boss Syndrome." What's at the heart of this issue and how do you fix it?

Your Purpose? Look Over Your Shoulder

Still searching for your purpose?

No, I don't mean your goal or what you aspire to, I mean your reason for being. I meet lots of folks who are searching for meaning and purpose. Many think it will come in the form of the perfect career or business, or in finding their "calling." If you are looking "out there" for fulfillment, you are looking in the wrong direction. Try looking over your shoulder.

The Secret of Happiness - Your Choice

Why aren't we happy and how do we get happiness?

Researchers tell us that self-reported levels of happiness have not increased since the 1950s, even though the national wealth has increased.  Link: El Paso Times - There's work involved in achieving happiness. Why? It seems that we are on a hedonic treadmill always striving for the next thing that will bring us pleasure, but we are unable to buy enough or do enough or be rich enough to be happy. And what, then, will bring us happiness?

Emotional Intelligence At Work: Be A Rat Today

Emotional Intelligence At Work: Be a rat today and pass it forward.

A Swiss research study discovered that rats demonstrated generalized reciprocity — that is, they were generous even with an unknown partner because another rat had just been kind to them.

The study cites previous research showing that humans act the same way — people who have been helped in some way are more likely to help others immediately afterward.

You have heard of generalized reciprocity before in the Pay It Forward book and movie that have now become a movement. Humans, and apparently rats, are wired to be generous. You have probably experienced the effects of this for yourself, but...sometimes we forget.

EQ Tip: You can positively affect the culture of your workplace while fulfilling your natural desire to serve.  Make it a point to reach out and help someone today or for the rest of the week and notice what happens.

Enjoy,

Joseph Liberti
EQ At Work

Emotional Intelligence At Work: "Getting Over" Approval

Liberating authentic self with emotional intelligence: Be Less Like Twiggy and More Like Popeye

In the 70's Twiggy set the style for models with her twig-like slimness. Marshall McLuhan summed her up with the comment "Twiggy is an X-ray, not a picture." She was bone thin, except for her huge eyes and fat eye-lashes and she turned the desire to be thin to the desire to be thinnest.

Twenty-five years later the death of 21-year-old anorexic model Ana Carolina Reston, who weighed only 88 pounds, jolted the fashion world into action to ban overly thin models. The hospital said the infection that killed the 5-foot-8-inch model was caused by anorexia nervosa, a disorder characterized by an abnormal fear of becoming obese. At the other end of the scale the sad opposite... Click here to get the rest of the story  at my True You Blog

True You: Be Less Like Twiggy and More Like Popeye

Liberating authentic self with emotional intelligence: Be Less Like Twiggy and More Like Popeye

In the 70's Twiggy set the style for models with her twig-like slimness. Marshall McLuhan summed her up with the comment "Twiggy is an X-ray, not a picture." She was bone thin, except for her huge eyes and fat eye-lashes and she turned the desire to be thin to the desire to be thinnest.

Twenty-five years later the death of 21-year-old anorexic model Ana Carolina Reston, who weighed only 88 pounds, jolted the fashion world into action to ban overly thin models. The hospital said the infection that killed the 5-foot-8-inch model was caused by anorexia nervosa, a disorder characterized by an abnormal fear of becoming obese. At the other end of the scale the sad opposite...

True You: What note do you mean to play?

Thelonious Monk the great jazz pianist was once asked how he managed to get a certain special sound out of the piano, Monk pointed to the keyboard and said: “It can’t be any new note. When you look at the keyboard, all the notes are there already. But if you mean a note enough, it will sound different. You got to pick the notes you really mean!”

What notes do you really mean to play?  How often do you say what you really mean and mean what you say? How often are your choices based on your own inner melody? What would your life be like if you were picking the notes you really mean?

Whether it is in your speaking, your choices or your actions, your true song will make you powerful and happy and it will resonate with others. We will all be your raving fans.

Joseph Liberti

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Leadership Emotional Intelligence - Purpose Plus People Skills = Success

A 360 degree assessment basically asks others - supervisors, peers, direct reports and even customers to rate someone's performance. A study of 400,000 leadership 360's confirms that purpose plus people skills gets the highest performance ratings.

In their book Extraordinary Leader, John H. Zenger and Joseph Folkman studied the 360-degree assessments of 400,000 leaders. One of their key findings isolated leaders whose main skill was getting results from leaders whose main skill was engaging people. The results showed no statistical difference between these groups.

Results-oriented leaders got to the 90th percentile of leadership effectiveness 13% of the time, and the people-oriented leaders got there 9% of the time.

And what about those leaders with both results and people competencies? A whopping 66% achieved the top level of leadership effectiveness. Link: Tofu And The Changing Nature Of Leadership - Forbes.com.

The Genos 360 degree emotional intelligence assessment gets feedback on the 7 essential emotional skills. Write me for info or ask your questions.

Joseph Liberti
EQ At Work

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